The Silent Struggle: Addressing Loneliness in Farming
By Lesley Kelly, Farmer and Co-founder of the Do More Agriculture Foundation
Farming is one of the most rewarding jobs out there, and it can also be one of the loneliest. Behind the beauty of wide-open fields and the pride of feeding the world, there’s a quiet struggle many farmers face every day: feeling alone. Talking about loneliness is important, not just for mental health but for keeping farm families and communities strong.
Why Farming Can Feel Lonely
Farming is a unique lifestyle. The long hours, physical work, and constant worries about weather, markets, and equipment make it a tough job. On top of that, a lot of the work is done alone—whether it’s driving the tractor for hours or checking on livestock far from anyone else. Spending so much time by yourself can really weigh on you.
Living in rural areas can add to loneliness. Many farms are miles from the nearest neighbor, and it’s not always easy to get to town or community events. Even when something is happening, farm work often comes first, and making time for social activities can feel impossible.
And while technology has made farming more efficient, it’s also made it more solitary. In the past, families and hired help worked together to get things done. Now, with advanced tech, fewer people are needed, which may also mean fewer opportunities to connect during the workday.
How Loneliness Affects Farmers
Feeling lonely doesn’t just make you sad; it can also affect your health. Studies show that isolation can lead to depression, anxiety, heart problems, and even a weaker immune system. For farmers who already deal with high stress from financial pressures and unpredictable weather, loneliness can make things feel even harder. Loneliness can lead to burnout or feeling hopeless.
Loneliness can also make it harder to make decisions or stay productive. When you’re feeling isolated, it’s tough to reach out for advice or share problems, which might lead to missed chances to fix an issue or find a better or different way to do things. Over time, isolation can create a cycle where loneliness leads to more stress, which then makes you feel even more alone.
What You Can Do to Feel Less Alone
The good news is there are ways to tackle loneliness and feel more connected. Here are a few ideas:
Use Technology to Stay Connected: Social media, online forums, and farming groups can help you connect with other farmers, even if they’re miles away. Sharing your experiences, asking questions, or just chatting with people who “get it” can make a big difference. The Do More Agriculture Foundation offers AgTalk, a special online anonymous platform for farmers to chat with others. AgTalk users report loneliness as one of their top five reasons to use AgTalk.
Get Involved Locally: Try to make time for local events, whether it’s a workshop, a community supper, or even just a quick coffee with a neighbor. Even small interactions can help you feel more connected.
Join a Support Group: Many farming and mental health organizations have programs where you can talk to other farmers who know what you’re going through. A great example is MensShed which is growing across Canada. Such groups can be a great way to share your struggles and get support.
Look After Your Mental Health: Talking to a counselor or therapist isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a way to stay strong. Most provinces now have services designed just for farmers, including some free sessions. Many of the therapists can work around your schedule.
Spend Time with Family and Friends: It’s easy to let farm work take over, but making time for your loved ones is so important. Whether it’s a shared meal, a quick phone call, or a walk together, staying connected with the people who matter most can help a lot.
Pick Up a Hobby: Having something to do outside of farming can give you a break and help you meet new people. Whether it’s woodworking, painting, or joining a local sports team, hobbies can be a great way to unwind and connect.
We’re in This Together
Loneliness in farming isn’t something anyone should have to deal with alone. Communities, farming groups, and even policymakers can help by creating more opportunities for connection. Things like community centers, mental health resources, and events where farmers can share their stories all make a difference.
As farmers, you give so much to the world. It’s just as important to take care of yourself. By reaching out, staying connected, and making time for your mental health, you can build a life that’s not just about surviving, but thriving. Remember, you’re not alone in this.
If you or someone you care about is experiencing loneliness and need someone to talk to, reach out. The action may be as simple as connecting for coffee, chatting on AgTalk, calling a farm stress line, going together to an event, or if things are really tough, anyone can call or text the new national suicide help line at 988. Loneliness is real; help is here.